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Online Relationship Counselling · York
Online Relationship Counselling in York
Online relationship counselling for York, by secure video. From a base in Hove I work with people across York, from within the walls and the centre to the streets around the Minster, with the same BACP-registered, confidential support as an in-person session, and no journey.
BACP registered member25+ years of experienceLived experience
ConfidentialA safe, private space
Person-centredThe therapy fits you
In and around York
Relationship Counselling for York, at a glance
- Areas covered online
- All of York: from within the walls and the centre to Clifton, Acomb and Heworth
- Known for
- The Minster, the city walls and the Shambles
- Region
- Yorkshire & North East (England)
- Local NHS / support route
- NHS Talking Therapies (find via the NHS finder)
- Format
- Secure video, UK-wide. In-person also available on the Sussex coast.
Life in York
Why people in York get in touch
York is a city that is permanently on show, and couples here often live behind the same polished front. Visitors fill the streets, the houses are pretty, and the cost of living inside the walls has made a lot of ordinary households quietly stretched. Work in the city's tourism and heritage sector runs to weekends and seasons, so one of you is busiest when the other is finally free. From Bishopthorpe to Huntington the story tends to be the same when it eventually gets told: nothing scandalous has happened, we are polite, we manage the diary well, and we have not really reached each other for a long time. Admitting that in a place this presentable can feel almost embarrassing.
Areas covered
Neighbourhoods in and around York
CliftonAcombHeworthBishopthorpeFulfordFishergateHolgateDringhousesHuntingtonHeslington
Wherever you are in York, the work is the same, a calm, confidential space shaped around you.
The local picture
The local picture in York
Official figures for York, for context rather than as a description of you.
the rate of emergency hospital admissions for self-harm was 91.8 per 100,000 in 2023/24, below the England average of 117 per 100,000. Source: OHID Fingertips – Emergency Hospital Admissions for Intentional Self-Harm (2023/24).
recorded depression on GP registers stood at 13.2% of patients aged 18+ in 2024/25, below the England average of 14.3%. Source: OHID Fingertips – Depression: QOF prevalence (2024/25).
26.2% of adults reported a high anxiety score in 2022/23, above the England average of 23.8%. Source: OHID Fingertips – Self-reported wellbeing: high anxiety score (2022/23).
Reviewed June 2026.
What actually happens in relationship counselling?
Relationship counselling here, for couples or individuals, slows down the pattern you are caught in and builds healthier ways of hearing and being heard.
Rather than say the same thing on every page, the substance lives on everything on relationship counselling, with how I work, sessions and fees for the practical questions and my credentials and registration for registration and ethics.
What do I need for an online session?
Sessions run over a secure, encrypted video link, held to the same BACP confidentiality as meeting in person. After a free fifteen-minute call, you join from any private space on a phone, tablet or laptop.
Everything for York is done by secure video, as Bradley is in Hove and there is nowhere here to sit down together in person. In a compact city where you will be seen, that anonymity counts. You can join from the kitchen table in Acomb once the house is quiet, together on one screen or separately if a weekend shift gets in the way. There is a free 15-minute call first, then a weekly appointment that stays put through the busy season.
Book a free 15-minute callWhat I help with
What does relationship counselling help with?
Trust and repair
Rebuilding safety after betrayal or addiction.
Distance
Finding your way back to closeness.
Long-distance couples
Sessions you can join from different places.
Anxiety and reassurance
Working with people-pleasing and the need for control.
Individual work
You do not need to come as a couple to change the dynamic.
Relationship Counselling in York
Why people in York come for relationship counselling
Couples usually come because of distance, because trust has gone, or because one person's anxiety or low mood has begun to set the temperature of the whole house. That first one is more common here than the postcard suggests: 26.2% of adults in York reported a high anxiety score in 2022/23, above the England average of 23.8%. Anxiety at that level shows up between partners as irritability, as reassurance-seeking that never quite lands, and as one of you managing the other instead of talking to them. Sessions work on the loop the two of you repeat and on saying the honest thing without it turning into a row. Coming alone is a legitimate way to start. In England the NHS Talking Therapies finder takes free self-referrals for individual support, York Mind runs local services, and York Drug and Alcohol Service is free and confidential if drinking is part of it.
A free, unhurried first step
Not sure if it is right for you? A free fifteen-minute call is a no-obligation way to talk it through.
Book a free 15-minute callFinding support in York
My online counselling sits alongside the help available locally. In York, you can refer yourself directly to NHS talking therapies for anxiety and depression, with no GP referral needed. You can find support through the NHS Talking Therapies finder.
Private sessions with me usually mean you can start sooner and stay with the same counsellor throughout; I am glad to work alongside any NHS or GP support you already have.
Other local and national support verified for this area includes:
If you need urgent help now
This is not a crisis service. If anyone is in immediate danger call 999. For urgent mental health support, call NHS 111 and choose the mental health option. The Samaritans are free, day or night, on 116 123, or text SHOUT to 85258.
York questions
Online Relationship Counselling in York: common questions
Everything looks fine from outside. Does that make it harder to ask for help here?
It seems to. Living somewhere that appears effortless makes private difficulty feel like a personal failure rather than an ordinary thing. Nobody is assessed on how bad it has got. If the two of you are unhappy, that is a sufficient reason to book.
What do you charge, and is it doubled for a couple?
No. The fee is for the session, not the person: £80 for 60 minutes, £100 for 90 and £120 for 120. Two people generally need the 90 minutes to both be properly heard. That first 15-minute consultation is free and binds you to nothing.
Is there anything free available to us?
The NHS Talking Therapies finder allows anyone in England to self-refer without a GP visit, at no charge, and York Mind runs local support as well. Both are aimed at the individual rather than the couple, so they sit alongside relationship work rather than doing the same job.
One of us works every weekend in hospitality. Can we still have a regular slot?
Yes. Seasonal and weekend work is the norm in this city, and the appointment is set around it rather than the other way round. Because there is no travelling, an hour between shifts is genuinely usable, and weeks where only one of you attends still count.
We are stretched by the mortgage and argue about money constantly. Is that our real problem?
It is real, and counselling will not change the figures. What it can change is what the pressure has turned the two of you into with each other, because most money arguments are also arguments about fairness, blame and who is allowed to be tired.
Getting through the centre is a hassle. Is online easier for us both?
Much easier. Working online from Hove means no walk through the tourist crowds and no parking within the walls to sort. You both join from home in York or another private space, at a time that fits around work and family.
How soon can a couple in York begin relationship counselling online?
Usually within a week or two of a free 15-minute consultation. I am based in Hove and meet York couples securely online, from Clifton to Fulford, so there is no waiting list and no need to find a room or parking together inside the walls.
What do you charge couples in York, and could we go through the NHS?
Most couples choose 90 minutes at £100, or 60 minutes at £80. Relate and NHS services in York can cost less but often involve a wait, while private online work lets us start sooner and keep a reliable weekly time for you both.
Struggle can feel out of place in York, and one of us commutes to Leeds.
That sense of things looking fine on the surface is common in York, and online sessions stay wholly private. We can meet together or from two places around a commute, and I keep some evening slots so sessions fit a demanding week.
Online Relationship Counselling in York, whenever you are ready
A free fifteen-minute call is the simplest place to start, no obligation, just a chance to see if we are the right fit.
Also available online across Yorkshire & North East: Leeds, Hull, Harrogate. See all of Yorkshire & North East.
If relationship counselling is not quite what you are looking for, counselling and therapy, trauma counselling and addiction counselling may fit better in York.
There is more on this in my writing: the Imago dialogue for couples.
Within reach of Sussex? relationship counselling is offered in the room in Hove, where the room is as well as online; see the full list of areas.