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Addiction: Illness or Indulgence?
A look beyond the tired binary of "disease" versus "choice", and why the more useful question is not "Why the addiction?" but "Why the pain?"
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Counselling & Addiction Recovery Blog
Notes on addiction, recovery & the journey back to yourself. Thoughts on the ideas that shape my work, including articles written for the Counselling Directory. Returning the past to the past, one understanding at a time.
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Living with Addiction: Practice Makes Permanent
Why gentle, repeated practice, under the right conditions of relaxation and permission, is what makes lasting change stick, far more than willpower ever could.
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The Four R's for Addictions
A simple, memorable framework for understanding and working through addictive patterns, and reclaiming the authentic self beneath them.
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Reflections on addiction, recovery & the mind
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The Cycle of Addiction
Understanding the cycle of addiction is crucial to the recovery process for many.
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Once an Addict, Always an Addict?
This was said to me by a client I was seeing who used alcohol to the point where he’d been admitted to rehab so many times he was being told if he…
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The Miracle Question
If there is then your healing journey is all poised and ready to go.
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Hypercapitalism: The Growth Hormone in Addiction
As an ‘addiction specialist’ – and I put that in inverted commas not through any pompous pretence to claim to be what the tag describes, but rather…
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The Ten Pillars for Sex & Porn Addiction
This exercise is essentially one of repetitious practice to effect long lasting and automatic, instinctual change in our usual responses; which in…
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Imago Dialogue: Couples Counselling in a Nutshell
Couples counselling is for relationships that aren’t accomplishing what they once upon a time used to and both parties are feeling the strain of…
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Three Strategies to Manage and Overcome Cravings
This is not you, this is your addiction, ie: it is characterised by automatic thoughts/automatic thinking, and when I say thinking I mean your…
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Tempering a Craving: Calming the Storm
If ever you feel in the grip of a compulsive, obsessional urge & want to resist it but can’t seem to find a way here’s a technique you might want to…
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