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Online Relationship Counselling · Southampton
Online Relationship Counselling in Southampton
Online relationship counselling for Southampton, by secure video. From a base in Hove I work with people across Southampton, from the city centre and Ocean Village to the streets around the waterfront, with the same BACP-registered, confidential support as an in-person session, and no journey.
BACP registered member25+ years of experienceLived experience
ConfidentialA safe, private space
Person-centredThe therapy fits you
In and around Southampton
Relationship Counselling for Southampton, at a glance
- Areas covered online
- All of Southampton: from the city centre and Ocean Village to Portswood, Shirley and Bitterne
- Known for
- The waterfront, the docks and the Common
- Region
- London & South East (England)
- Local NHS / support route
- NHS Talking Therapies Hampshire (italk)
- Format
- Secure video, UK-wide. In-person also available on the Sussex coast.
Life in Southampton
Why do people in Southampton reach out?
A lot of households here are run on opposite clocks. The docks and cruise terminals never fully stop, Southampton General Hospital keeps people on nights, and one partner can spend years sleeping through the hours the other is awake. Some jobs take a person away for weeks at a time and then hand them back to a house that has learned to manage without them. Meanwhile the city itself keeps turning over, students arriving in Portswood every autumn and leaving again, neighbours who never quite become friends. Couples in that setting often find they have nobody nearby to steady them, and the two of you end up absorbing everything on your own.
Areas covered
Neighbourhoods in and around Southampton
PortswoodShirleyBitterneWoolstonSt DenysBevois ValleyHighfieldMillbrookFreemantle
Wherever you are in Southampton, the work is the same, a calm, confidential space shaped around you.
The local picture
The local picture in Southampton
Official figures for Southampton, for context rather than as a description of you.
the rate of emergency hospital admissions for self-harm was 261.7 per 100,000 in 2023/24, above the England average of 117 per 100,000. Source: OHID Fingertips – Emergency Hospital Admissions for Intentional Self-Harm (2023/24).
recorded depression on GP registers stood at 13.3% of patients aged 18+ in 2024/25, below the England average of 14.3%. Source: OHID Fingertips – Depression: QOF prevalence (2024/25).
33.8% of adults reported a high anxiety score in 2022/23, above the England average of 23.8%. Source: OHID Fingertips – Self-reported wellbeing: high anxiety score (2022/23).
Reviewed June 2026.
What is relationship counselling, in practice?
Relationship counselling here, for couples or individuals, slows down the pattern you are caught in and builds healthier ways of hearing and being heard.
The method travels; only the geography changes. the full relationship counselling page explains it properly, how I work, sessions and fees answers the practical questions, and qualifications, registration and ethics shows how the practice is held to account.
How does meeting by video work in practice?
Sessions run over a secure, encrypted video link, held to the same BACP confidentiality as meeting in person. After a free fifteen-minute call, you join from any private space on a phone, tablet or laptop.
Working by secure video means the rota stops being the deciding factor. Bradley is in Hove, there is nothing in the city to attend, and a session can sit at eight in the morning after a night shift or late in the evening before one. You can be in the same room in Bitterne or on two separate screens, and if one of you is away with work the hour still happens rather than being postponed indefinitely.
Book a free 15-minute callWhat I help with
What does relationship counselling help with?
Trust and repair
Rebuilding safety after betrayal or addiction.
Distance
Finding your way back to closeness.
Long-distance couples
Sessions you can join from different places.
Anxiety and reassurance
Working with people-pleasing and the need for control.
Individual work
You do not need to come as a couple to change the dynamic.
Relationship Counselling in Southampton
Why people in Southampton come for relationship counselling
Drink is part of this more often than couples expect. Hospital admissions for alcohol-related conditions ran at 711.6 per 100,000 in 2023/24, above the England average of 504.1 per 100,000, and long before anything reaches a hospital it has usually reshaped an evening, a weekend and then a marriage. The other common thread is plain erosion: night shifts, missed meals together, and a slow drift into a functional arrangement neither of you would have chosen. Sessions concentrate on what happens between you rather than on establishing fault, particularly on repair, since the days of careful distance after a row usually do more damage than the row. Attending as a couple is not required and many people begin alone. Free self-referral is available through NHS Talking Therapies Hampshire, italk, and Solent Mind, the largest mental health charity in the county, runs support here.
A free, unhurried first step
Not sure if it is right for you? A free fifteen-minute call is a no-obligation way to talk it through.
Book a free 15-minute callFinding support in Southampton
My online counselling sits alongside the help available locally. In Southampton, you can refer yourself directly to NHS Talking Therapies Hampshire (italk) for free NHS talking therapy, with no GP referral needed.
Private sessions with me usually mean you can start sooner and stay with the same counsellor throughout; I am glad to work alongside any NHS or GP support you already have.
Other local and national support verified for this area includes:
If you need urgent help now
This is not a crisis service. If anyone is in immediate danger call 999. For urgent mental health support, call NHS 111 and choose the mental health option. The Samaritans are free, day or night, on 116 123, or text SHOUT to 85258.
Southampton questions
Online Relationship Counselling in Southampton: common questions
One of us works nights. Are there appointments outside normal hours?
Yes, and they are used constantly. Early morning slots suit people coming off a night shift, and later evening ones suit those going onto it. The weekly time can also move when your pattern rotates, rather than the work stopping every few weeks.
What is the fee for a couples session?
The same as for one person: £80 for an hour, £100 for ninety minutes and £120 for two hours. Couples often take the longer session so neither of you is squeezed. The initial 15-minute consultation is free and is the place to ask anything practical.
Is there free relationship support in Southampton?
You can refer yourself to NHS Talking Therapies Hampshire without going through a GP, and it does not cost anything. Solent Mind runs wellbeing support locally as well. Neither rules out private work, and starting a free referral while you decide is sensible.
My partner is away at sea for weeks. How would this work?
Most couples in that position do individual sessions while one of you is away and joint sessions around the departures and returns. Connections offshore are unpredictable, so it is usually better to plan around them than to rely on them and lose the hour.
Drinking has become the thing we argue about. Is that a relationship issue?
It becomes one very quickly. Whatever the drinking is doing for the person doing it, the other partner has usually spent a long time managing, covering and worrying. Both sides of that can be looked at here, and Change Grow Live runs the city's drug and alcohol service.
One of us works shifts at the hospital. Can couples sessions fit around that?
Yes. Shift patterns are one of the main reasons couples here choose online sessions. We look at your rotas together and find a recurring time that works around nights and changeovers, joined from home, so the sessions survive even an irregular week.
How soon can we start relationship counselling online in Southampton?
Usually within a week. There is no waiting list, so after a free 15-minute consultation we book a first session around your rotas. It is held securely online, joined from home in Portswood, Shirley or Ocean Village, so shift changeovers at the docks or hospital need not stand in the way.
What are your fees, and how does that compare with the NHS in Southampton?
Sessions are £80 for 60 minutes, £100 for 90 minutes and £120 for 120 minutes, after a free 15-minute consultation. NHS Talking Therapies in Hampshire is free but can involve a waiting list, whereas private work with Bradley lets the two of you choose a time that fits your shifts.
One of us works shifts at the hospital. Can couples join from different places?
Yes. Shift patterns are a common reason couples here choose online. We look at your rotas together, and if needed one of you can join from home and the other from work, with evening slots available, so sessions survive even an irregular week around Southampton General.
Online Relationship Counselling in Southampton, whenever you are ready
A free fifteen-minute call is the simplest place to start, no obligation, just a chance to see if we are the right fit.
Also available online across London & South East: Portsmouth, Basingstoke. See all of London & South East.
Close to this in Southampton, there is counselling and therapy, trauma counselling and addiction counselling.
There is more on this in my writing: the Imago dialogue for couples.
For anyone near the coast, the same relationship counselling runs in person in Brighton. Every area covered is listed separately.