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Online Relationship Counselling · Lincoln
Online Relationship Counselling in Lincoln
Online relationship counselling for Lincoln, by secure video. From a base in Hove I work with people across Lincoln, from the historic Bailgate and the cathedral to the streets around the castle, with the same BACP-registered, confidential support as an in-person session, and no journey.
BACP registered member25+ years of experienceLived experience
ConfidentialA safe, private space
Person-centredThe therapy fits you
In and around Lincoln
Relationship Counselling for Lincoln, at a glance
- Areas covered online
- All of Lincoln: from the historic Bailgate and the cathedral to Ermine, St Giles and the city centre below the hill
- Known for
- The cathedral, the castle and Steep Hill
- Region
- Midlands (England)
- Local NHS / support route
- Lincolnshire Talking Therapies (steps2change)
- Format
- Secure video, UK-wide. In-person also available on the Sussex coast.
Life in Lincoln
Why people in Lincoln get in touch
Distance does quiet damage to a partnership, and around Lincoln there is a great deal of it. One of you may work away for stretches, or drive an hour each way to a site, or keep hours set by an engineering shift rather than by the evening. The county is large, flat and thinly served, so seeing anybody about anything means planning a journey. Couples in Ermine, Birchwood and Bracebridge often describe a marriage that functions perfectly well by text message and has not had an unhurried conversation in a year. Then something small goes wrong and it turns out neither of you knows how to start the difficult version of talking.
Areas covered
Neighbourhoods in and around Lincoln
BailgateErmineSt GilesUphillBracebridgeBoulthamBirchwoodHartsholmeMonks RoadCarholme
Wherever you are in Lincoln, the work is the same, a calm, confidential space shaped around you.
The local picture
The local picture in Lincoln
Official figures for Lincoln, for context rather than as a description of you.
the rate of emergency hospital admissions for self-harm was 101.7 per 100,000 in 2023/24, below the England average of 117 per 100,000. Source: OHID Fingertips – Emergency Hospital Admissions for Intentional Self-Harm (2023/24).
recorded depression on GP registers stood at 15.8% of patients aged 18+ in 2024/25, above the England average of 14.3%. Source: OHID Fingertips – Depression: QOF prevalence (2024/25).
20.5% of adults reported a high anxiety score in 2022/23, below the England average of 23.8%. Source: OHID Fingertips – Self-reported wellbeing: high anxiety score (2022/23).
Reviewed June 2026.
What actually happens in relationship counselling?
Relationship counselling here, for couples or individuals, slows down the pattern you are caught in and builds healthier ways of hearing and being heard.
The approach does not change with the postcode, so rather than repeat it on every page you can read it in full, the methods and what each session covers, on the full relationship counselling page, alongside how sessions run and what they cost and qualifications, registration and ethics.
What do I need for an online session?
Sessions run over a secure, encrypted video link, held to the same BACP confidentiality as meeting in person. After a free fifteen-minute call, you join from any private space on a phone, tablet or laptop.
There is no room here; Bradley works from Hove and Lincoln is served entirely online. In a county this spread out that removes the single biggest obstacle, which is getting two working people into the same building at the same time. You can share one screen, or log in separately when one of you is away for the week. Coming on your own is fine, and quite a few people begin that way before a partner joins.
Book a free 15-minute callWhat I help with
What can relationship counselling in Lincoln help with?
Trust and repair
Rebuilding safety after betrayal or addiction.
Distance
Finding your way back to closeness.
Long-distance couples
Sessions you can join from different places.
Anxiety and reassurance
Working with people-pleasing and the need for control.
Individual work
You do not need to come as a couple to change the dynamic.
Relationship Counselling in Lincoln
Why people in Lincoln come for relationship counselling
The usual reason is not a crisis. It is that the two of you have become efficient and distant, or that trust has been damaged and the subject is now unapproachable, or that one of you has been drinking more since the work changed and neither of you says so. In Lincoln, 20.5% of adults reported a high anxiety score in 2022/23, below the England average of 23.8%, though a self-reported measure in a rural county with long distances to services is not a full picture. The work itself is slow and quite ordinary. One repeating argument gets taken apart until the actual request underneath is audible, and then we test in small ways whether things can be different. Lincolnshire Talking Therapies takes self-referrals, and We Are With You, Lincolnshire covers drug and alcohol support if drink has become the third presence in the house.
A free, unhurried first step
Not sure if it is right for you? A free fifteen-minute call is a no-obligation way to talk it through.
Book a free 15-minute callFinding support in Lincoln
My online counselling sits alongside the help available locally. In Lincoln, you can refer yourself directly to Lincolnshire Talking Therapies (steps2change) for free NHS talking therapy, with no GP referral needed.
Private sessions with me usually mean you can start sooner and stay with the same counsellor throughout; I am glad to work alongside any NHS or GP support you already have.
Other local and national support verified for this area includes:
If you need urgent help now
This is not a crisis service. If anyone is in immediate danger call 999. For urgent mental health support, call NHS 111 and choose the mental health option. The Samaritans are free, day or night, on 116 123, or text SHOUT to 85258.
Lincoln questions
Online Relationship Counselling in Lincoln: common questions
One of us works away half the month. Can that work?
It can, and online is what makes it possible. A session runs from a hotel room or a site cabin as easily as from the kitchen, so the fortnight away no longer means a fortnight without progress. We would set the pattern around the rota rather than around a building.
What are we charged if both of us take part?
You pay once for the appointment, not once each. Sixty minutes costs £80, ninety costs £100 and a two-hour session is £120. Where two people need to be heard properly, ninety minutes is generally the realistic choice. Before anything gets booked there is a free 15-minute conversation to see whether this suits you.
Is there an NHS service in Lincolnshire for relationship problems?
Lincolnshire Talking Therapies is the NHS Talking Therapies service for the county and takes self-referrals without a GP. It works on anxiety and depression rather than the couple, so it may suit one of you individually. Waits vary across a large county, and using both routes together is normal.
We live out in a village. Does that rule this out?
Not at all, and it is one of the reasons online matters here. A decent internet connection is the only requirement, and there is no drive into the city after work. If your connection is unreliable, we plan for that rather than letting a dropout end the session.
Are we too far gone for this to be worth trying?
That is not something anyone can judge from the outside, and it is not the question this work answers. What it does is slow you both down enough to see what is actually happening between you. What you then decide about staying together stays entirely with the two of you.
We live out in the county, can we still attend together?
Yes. One of the advantages of online counselling is that distance stops mattering. Whether you are in the city or out in a village across Lincolnshire, you and your partner can meet by video together from home, with no long drive in, just a private space and a connection.
How soon can we start online relationship counselling in Lincoln?
Online relationship counselling in Lincoln has no waiting list. We start with a free 15-minute consultation, and once you and your partner agree a weekly time, sessions can begin soon after. From Bailgate to Uphill or Birchwood, the work is arranged entirely by video.
What does relationship counselling cost in Lincoln, and is it available on the NHS?
Lincoln couples can self-refer free to NHS Talking Therapies, though a wait is common. My private fees are £80 for an hour, 100 for 90 minutes and 120 for two hours, after a free 15-minute consultation. Many couples go private to be seen sooner.
Can my partner and I join from different places in Lincoln, and are evening sessions available?
With Lincoln's rural county meaning long journeys, online spares the travel. Partners can join from separate places, one in Ermine and one from work, and evening slots outside standard hours are often available for couples in and around the city.
Online Relationship Counselling in Lincoln, whenever you are ready
A free fifteen-minute call is the simplest place to start, no obligation, just a chance to see if we are the right fit.
Also available online across Midlands: Nottingham, Peterborough. See all of Midlands.
Related work in Lincoln: counselling and therapy, trauma counselling and addiction counselling.
If you would like to read more first, I have written about the Imago dialogue for couples.
If you can reach the south coast, this work is also done face to face in Brighton — all in-person areas are listed here.