Communication and conflict
Breaking the cycle of the same argument.
Relationship Counselling · Haywards Heath
Relationship Counselling for Haywards Heath and the surrounding area, in person or online. Haywards Heath is a well-connected Mid Sussex town surrounded by countryside and commuter villages. From my room in nearby Hove I offer a calm, confidential space to do this work.

In and around Haywards Heath
Life in Haywards Heath
Having children changes a partnership faster than anything else, and Haywards Heath is full of couples in the middle of that. Saturday morning at Victoria Park or Beech Hurst Gardens, two parents doing an excellent job, and the last proper conversation between them was some weeks ago. You are a good team now. You are also strangers who exchange information about naps and nurseries and then fall asleep at different ends of the sofa. Around Bolnore Village and Ashenground there are households where nobody is unhappy exactly, and nobody has been asked how they are in months. It is not neglect. Everything available has gone into keeping the operation running.
Areas covered
Wherever you are in Haywards Heath, the work is the same, a calm, confidential space shaped around you.
The local picture
Official figures for Haywards Heath, for context rather than as a description of you.
the rate of emergency hospital admissions for self-harm was 127.2 per 100,000 in 2023/24, above the England average of 117 per 100,000. Source: OHID Fingertips – Emergency Hospital Admissions for Intentional Self-Harm (2023/24).
recorded depression on GP registers stood at 14.5% of patients aged 18+ in 2024/25, above the England average of 14.3%. Source: OHID Fingertips – Depression: QOF prevalence (2024/25).
24.5% of adults reported a high anxiety score in 2022/23, above the England average of 23.8%. Source: OHID Fingertips – Self-reported wellbeing: high anxiety score (2022/23).
Reviewed June 2026.
Relationship counselling here, for couples or individuals, slows down the pattern you are caught in and builds healthier ways of hearing and being heard.
What actually happens in the room is the same everywhere, so it is written up once: see the full relationship counselling page for the methods, how I work for fees and session lengths, and professional standards and registration if you want to check who you would be working with.
Sessions take place in a private, comfortable room at Intergen House on Western Road in central Hove, held to the strict BACP confidentiality you would expect. We begin with a free fifteen-minute call to check we are a good fit, and the same sessions are available by secure video if travelling is difficult or you would simply prefer it.
Direct trains reach Hove in around twenty-five minutes, and the drive south takes roughly forty. That is far enough to feel properly separate from home, which some couples find useful, and near enough to keep up weekly. If childcare makes two people leaving the house at once impossible, joining online by secure video from different rooms after bedtime is a common arrangement. You can also come in alone, whichever way the week works out.
Book a free 15-minute callWhat I help with
Breaking the cycle of the same argument.
Rebuilding safety after betrayal or addiction.
Finding your way back to closeness.
Sessions you can join from different places.
Working with people-pleasing and the need for control.
You do not need to come as a couple to change the dynamic.
Relationship Counselling in Haywards Heath
Most couples who get in touch from here are not in crisis. They are depleted. The complaint is usually about the division of labour, or sex, or one person feeling unseen, but underneath it is the same question: is there still a couple in here, or only two parents. Some arrive with something sharper. An affair. A partner whose drinking has quietly moved into the working week. A depression in one of you that the other has been absorbing for so long that resentment has set in without ever being spoken. The sessions slow all of that down. We take a familiar argument and look at what was actually being asked for beneath the words. Where trust has been damaged, repair is something built across months. Coming without your partner is welcome. Recorded depression covered 14.5% of West Sussex adults aged 18 and over in 2024/25, marginally more than the England average of 14.3%. NHS West Sussex Talking Therapies takes self-referrals, though it works with individuals rather than couples.
Not sure if it is right for you? A free fifteen-minute call is a no-obligation way to talk it through.
Book a free 15-minute callMy counselling sits alongside the help available locally. In Haywards Heath, you can refer yourself directly to NHS West Sussex Talking Therapies for free NHS talking therapy, with no GP referral needed.
Seeing me privately usually means you can start sooner and stay with the same counsellor throughout, working at greater depth and pace; the two can run side by side, and I am glad to work alongside any NHS or GP support you already have.
Other local and national support verified for this area includes:
This is not a crisis service. If anyone is in immediate danger call 999. For urgent mental health support, call NHS 111 and choose the mental health option. The Samaritans are free, day or night, on 116 123, or text SHOUT to 85258.
Haywards Heath questions
In a private room at Intergen House on Western Road in central Hove. From Haywards Heath frequent direct trains reach Hove and Brighton in around twenty-five minutes, with the A23 close by for driving. Every service is also available by secure video across the UK, so you can meet from any private space in Haywards Heath or blend the two.
There is a free 15-minute call first, arranged around whatever time you can find, then a first session usually within a week or two. No referral is required. If the only realistic slot is after the children are asleep, say so early, because those times are the ones that fill up.
Per session. Sixty minutes costs £80, ninety costs £100 and two hours costs £120, and that is the same whether one of you comes or both. Many couples take the ninety-minute option so nobody has to rush. The opening 15-minute consultation carries no charge at all.
NHS West Sussex Talking Therapies is the free service and you can refer yourself online without going through your GP. It is mainly individual work on anxiety and low mood, so couple sessions are not usually what it provides, and waiting times move around. DAWN covers drug and alcohol support.
Yes, and a good number of couples do exactly that, either sharing one screen or logging in from separate rooms. Secure video removes the childcare problem entirely. When you would rather have an hour away from the house, the room in Hove is twenty-five minutes down the line.
It is precisely what this is for. The parenting partnership often survives while the relationship underneath it quietly stops being tended. We look at what has been squeezed out, whether you both actually want it back, and what would genuinely have to change to make room for it.
Around twenty-five minutes on frequent direct services to Hove, then a short walk to Western Road. By car the A23 takes roughly forty minutes. Given the distance, many couples find online video sessions the more convenient choice, and you can always mix the two.
Start with a free fifteen-minute call, then come over for your session. From Haywards Heath frequent direct trains reach Hove and Brighton in around twenty-five minutes, a short walk to Western Road, or it is roughly forty minutes south by car with the A23 close by.
Relationship sessions are £80 for sixty minutes, £100 for ninety and £120 for two hours, after a free fifteen-minute consultation. The NHS rarely funds couples work, so most Haywards Heath clients choose private sessions, fitting the room around a commuting week and skipping a long waiting list.
Yes. Couples can come to the Hove room or share a secure video call from home, which fits neatly around Haywards Heath's train-paced life. Individuals are welcome alone. Evening slots help when work and family fill the day, and you can mix the train in with online sessions.
A free fifteen-minute call is the simplest place to start, no obligation, just a chance to see if we are the right fit.
Also available nearby: Burgess Hill, Hassocks. See all areas I cover.
People who come for relationship counselling in Haywards Heath often also look at counselling and therapy, trauma counselling and addiction counselling.
There is more on this in my writing: the Imago dialogue for couples.
Prefer to meet remotely? The same relationship counselling is available online by secure video across the UK, or see online counselling by region.