Fareham · online by video, with the Hove room for occasional sessions
Psychotherapy for Fareham
If you're in Fareham and learned long ago to keep going and deal with your feelings later, psychotherapy is where later finally arrives. It's open-ended weekly work on the patterns that keep returning, held mostly by secure video, with my room in Hove for the occasional longer session in person.
The practical facts for Fareham
- Where sessions happen
- A private room at Intergen House, 65-67 Western Road, Hove BN3 2JQ, or secure video.
- From Fareham by car
- About 68 minutes with clear roads (50.0 miles); longer at busy times.
- By train
- Direct trains from Fareham towards Brighton call at Hove on the way.
- Free NHS talking therapy
- NHS Talking Therapies Hampshire, 023 8038 3920
- Fees
- £80 for 60 minutes, £100 for 90, £120 for 120. The first 15-minute call is free.
- Registration
- BACP registered member, no. 109340 (check the register); UKCP student member in advanced psychotherapy training.
Trained to hold steady, and what waits underneath
Fareham is home to HMS Collingwood, the Royal Navy shore establishment that leads the Maritime Warfare School and the largest naval training organisation in Western Europe.
Whether you serve, train or work there, or share a home with someone who does, you'll know a culture that values staying steady, following the drill and putting your own reactions aside until the job is done. Plenty of civilian jobs around Fareham run on the same rule, and so do some families. The habit is useful. The trouble starts when later never comes, and what was set aside resurfaces in other forms: a temper that flares at home, a distance in relationships you can't explain, or a low patch that arrives every time life goes quiet. Psychotherapy gives that pattern time, so we can understand where it began and why it still feels necessary.
Open-ended work at a weekly rhythm
There is no fixed number of sessions in this kind of work. We meet at the same time each week, and every so often we pause to review what has changed and whether to carry on. The early weeks are about your history and the ways you learned to keep yourself safe, whether that meant going quiet, keeping busy or always looking after someone else. Later we can turn gently towards what those strategies were protecting you from, at a speed that leaves you able to function between sessions. You may arrive after a course of help from NHS Talking Therapies Hampshire, the service previously called italk, wanting to look further back at where the difficulty began. Longer work can pick up from there. I'm a BACP registered member and a UKCP student member, which is not the same as UKCP registration, and I'll always say so plainly. What I bring is more than 25 years of practice and an integrative approach set out on the how-I-work page. If something surfaces that needs specialist or medical care, I'll tell you, and we'll work out together where to go.
Fareham lives that can lead to longer work
Getting others ready at Collingwood
If your work at HMS Collingwood is about preparing other people, you may be the last person whose own state gets checked. Longer work makes room for what you have been carrying.
When the uniform comes off
Leaving the Navy can take away the routine that kept an old pattern in check, so it reappears in civilian life. Psychotherapy can look at what that structure was holding.
Navy families and Anchoring Minds
Anchoring Minds, run by Solent Mind with the Royal Navy and Royal Marines Charity, supports personnel and their families. Open-ended psychotherapy can sit beside it when something older needs time.
Waiting for a move to Welborne
If your hopes rest on a new home in Welborne, the planned new town north of the M27, it is easy to wait for the move to fix things. The work needn't wait for a new address.
Public health figures for the area
These are local authority figures from the Office for Health Improvement and Disparities. "Similar to England" means the difference is not statistically significant. The figures describe a whole population over a period, not any one person.
Free and low-cost support for Fareham
Longer private work can sit beside free help around Fareham. The Solent Mind Fareham and Gosport Wellbeing Service offers groups, workshops and one-to-one emotional support between sessions, and NHS Talking Therapies Hampshire takes self-referrals if worry or low mood needs attention while you decide about longer work.
- Free NHS talking therapyNHS Talking Therapies Hampshire023 8038 3920Free NHS talking therapy for anxiety, low mood and related difficulties. You can refer yourself, with no GP referral needed.
- If drinking or drug use is part of itInclusion Recovery Hampshire0300 124 0103Free and confidential.
- Local organisationAnchoring MindsMental health support for Royal Navy and Royal Marines.
For gambling, the National Gambling Helpline is free, day or night, on 0808 8020 133 (NHS gambling support).
If someone at home is hurting, threatening or controlling you, the National Domestic Abuse Helpline is free, day or night, on 0808 2000 247.
If you need urgent help now
If you need help right now, please don't wait for a session.
In this area you can also text HANTS to 85258.
What people in Fareham ask before starting
What's the first step towards psychotherapy from Fareham, and how many months might it take?
It starts with the free 15-minute call, a chance to talk about what you're hoping for and whether open-ended work fits, and I'll tell you which weekly times are open. After that there's no fixed length: some pieces of work take a few months and others a year or more, we review it together as we go, and you can stop whenever you choose.
Can I get longer-term therapy on the NHS in Fareham?
If what weighs on you is mostly worry or a low spell, NHS Talking Therapies Hampshire is free, and you can ring it without a GP on 023 8038 3920. For longer or more complex needs, ask your GP what the NHS can offer locally. The Solent Mind Fareham and Gosport Wellbeing Service can offer support while you decide what you want.
Is it a problem that I'd rarely meet you in person from Fareham?
Not for most longer work. What matters is that the time is regular and private, and video from a quiet room at home gives you that without a 68-minute drive each way. If you'd value sitting in the same room now and then, the direct train to Brighton puts an occasional session in Hove within reach, and we can time those around the work.
What does your UKCP student membership mean for longer work with you?
It means I'm not UKCP-registered, and I'd rather you knew that from the start. With UKCP I hold student membership, which is different from registration. I'm a registered member of BACP, with more than 25 years of practice as a counsellor and psychotherapist. If seeing someone who already holds UKCP registration matters to you, that is a fair reason to look elsewhere.
How much do sessions cost, and is the first call free?
Sessions are £80 for 60 minutes, £100 for 90 minutes and £120 for 120 minutes, the same in person in Hove or by video. The first 15-minute call is free, with no obligation to book. There is no NHS referral needed to see me privately.
Talk about longer work before you commit to it
When you feel ready, a short conversation is the easiest way to see whether we are a good fit. There is no obligation.